First question – What’s your WHY?? This is something you should get really clear on. It will help you focus on the things that are important to you.
I am my why. For some that may sound selfish but hear me out. My Mom was never her why. She was always doing for others and not taking care of herself. My Mom was an awesome mother, a really good wife and a great friend to many. She died when I was 39 – she was only 58 at the time. I was angry with her. I didn’t understand why she didn’t fight harder. There were so many reasons to live…me, my sister, our children. That underlying anger stayed with me for a long time. I felt like I had forgotten those feelings until I was at a PNPtribe camp in 2012 and we did the 5 Why’s exercise. The 5 Why’s is asking yourself a question, getting an answer and they asking a why question of the answer. My why came up for me. I realized that if I didn’t make my health and wellness my why, I could potentially miss out on my boys lives or growing old with my husband and I did not and do not want that.
I am committed to living a good life after 50. According to Webster’s, commitment means an agreement or pledge; the state or an instance of being obligated or emotionally impelled. In the past, I thought I was committed to my health and wellness which meant I would try this diet or that plan, these exercises or some ridiculous fad. When it didn’t work, I was no longer committed – typically two weeks or less. Needless to say, I was not fully committed. When someone says they are committed, they take steps and actions to get where they want to be. They don’t just try things. When I finally decided to be committed and discovered my why, being committed changed for me. I was and still am emotionally impelled to take care of me and I have made agreements with myself over the past five years that keep me committed to my health, wellness and in pursuit of a good life after 50.
In upcoming posts, I’ll share the commitments that are non-negotiable for me. A solid plan , a good morning routine, exercise, NSNF, night time routine, weekly meet ups with friends for exercise, bi-monthly dinners out with friends, date night, meal prep.
Have an awesome week and keep working toward a good life after 50!